"Sometimes it’s easier to believe it’s something you did than face the crushing weight of your utter vulnerability …
And, the last reason I learned along the way for why abused and raped girls seem to seek out further rape and abuse: they’ve just come to accept that this will happen anyway. If you grow up, as most girls do, thinking your virginity is some kind of prize, or at least something sentimental, and then it’s ripped away from you… well, you’re faced with cognitive dissonance. Either your virginity was a super prize and now it’s defiled, or your virginity wasn’t any kind of prize at all and you have not been defiled. You gotta pick one or the other. And most girls will pick the other. And, let’s take virginity out of it, if you believe that sex is something to be shared between two intimate partners in a sweet and loving way, and then experience a horrifying degradation, well… either you were wrong about sex, or you were right about sex but will now never experience that kind of love and intimacy, because you have been scarred for life. Basically, if you value a thing, and that thing is destroyed, you can either cry over your destroyed valuables, or flood the market until it’s not valuable anymore."

— Harriet Jay at Fugitivus